tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4335150632431753345.post7097869449517769854..comments2023-11-05T02:21:55.387-08:00Comments on this is not what i had planned: What's in a year?k@laklyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05366772609212990882noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4335150632431753345.post-17993031563158300132008-12-15T11:19:00.000-08:002008-12-15T11:19:00.000-08:00Its been a pleasure sharing the last year with you...Its been a pleasure sharing the last year with you..."in a sad griefing twisted kinda way" But couldn't have done it with out ya. As soon as I noted the frequent references to 'drinkies' i knew I had found a kindred spirit. Ha. Would love to hear about your new little man - it gives me such hope to be on the 'other side' so to watch someone that has navigated successfully - lifts me up. Take care dear friend xAngehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04247910522550279292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4335150632431753345.post-57333518203016234172008-12-12T21:17:00.000-08:002008-12-12T21:17:00.000-08:00I've bookmarked your blog and thank you for it. I ...I've bookmarked your blog and thank you for it. I love the pictures of your new little one. <BR/>We lost our little one, Rana Hollister Secen two weeks ago today due to what was probably a cord accident at 39 weeks. We're still in shock, but somehow we're able to keep moving. We have a 17 month old little boy who greeted us after coming home from the hospital and funeral with an excited "Ooooo!" He was sleepy and overwhelmed by all the people in the house, but very solid, very real and very alive. I held him in my lap and tried to push away the numb feeling that came home with me from the cemetery. <BR/>Our community has a crop of new babies and I want to hold all of them at once and hug their parents. I'm in the middle of the deepest sorrow of my life, but I still am happy for everyone who goes home with their baby. This tells me that I'll be okay. My husband wants to have another baby 'as soon as possible', which tells me that he'll be okay, too. <BR/>Your blog gives me some confidence that my next pregnancy won't necessarily give me another dead baby. Again, congratulations and thank you for your blog.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15358698762090631343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4335150632431753345.post-53661163936322608282008-12-11T13:42:00.000-08:002008-12-11T13:42:00.000-08:00Happy blog-aversary Kal. I think when things chang...Happy blog-aversary Kal. I think when things change it just takes a while to find your voice again. Lord knows I'm struggling. I know you'll find yours when the times right. It's just good to know you and Cason are well.Coggyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07435179051565255934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4335150632431753345.post-14909864155795422262008-12-08T05:26:00.000-08:002008-12-08T05:26:00.000-08:00Congratulations on the year mark!Rocks and salt, p...Congratulations on the year mark!<BR/><BR/>Rocks and salt, please?Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03812637630030228124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4335150632431753345.post-17371451123547112922008-12-08T04:53:00.000-08:002008-12-08T04:53:00.000-08:00Happy Bloggy-versary!!Thank YOU for writing, here ...Happy Bloggy-versary!!<BR/><BR/>Thank YOU for writing, here and elsewhere. (Raises glass of scotch in your honor -- and I don't even like scotch.)Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4335150632431753345.post-85805229682016750092008-12-06T12:07:00.000-08:002008-12-06T12:07:00.000-08:00I agree with Sophie; I think that we are here for ...I agree with Sophie; I think that we are here for the bad and the good. You shouldnt feel the need to share your joy elsewhere; we who mourn need the joy of others who mourn so that we can find joy, too.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4335150632431753345.post-34740324968767570662008-12-06T10:06:00.000-08:002008-12-06T10:06:00.000-08:00I'll read it all too! I don't think our grief will...I'll read it all too! I don't think our grief will end, even if there's a new baby in the picture. And I am sure those emotions will conflict heavily with the happy ones. So vomit it out all over the screen. <BR/><BR/>And thank you for all the support you have given me:)CLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08030787972960755420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4335150632431753345.post-4075332003410409932008-12-06T08:30:00.000-08:002008-12-06T08:30:00.000-08:00I'll read whatever you write, my friend.I'll read whatever you write, my friend.Aunt Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146687582842259611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4335150632431753345.post-41991365055219393982008-12-06T07:32:00.000-08:002008-12-06T07:32:00.000-08:00Thank you for stopping by my corner of the world t...Thank you for stopping by my corner of the world too. :)<BR/><BR/>I am looking forward to hearing how your life with a new baby is, after losing a baby. It's one of my current keeping-me-awake-at-night worries about this pregnancy. (Followed closely by the usual charmer, *if this baby even makes it...*)Rebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16739267142330427759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4335150632431753345.post-26763401916711224022008-12-05T20:38:00.000-08:002008-12-05T20:38:00.000-08:00Would you believe it? Many of my early posts were ...Would you believe it? Many of my early posts were also powered by a nice cocktail or three. Though mine were based on some excellent vodka (which I, unlike husband, do not drink straight, but which I love for the purposes of making kick-ass cocktails.<BR/><BR/>So happy for you!Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4335150632431753345.post-38274099302173976512008-12-05T19:27:00.000-08:002008-12-05T19:27:00.000-08:00Personally I wouldn't mind hearing you talk about ...Personally I wouldn't mind hearing you talk about Cason and your new baby thoughts. It's a big part of your life and a part of your healing too. I don't think you should have to separate them.<BR/><BR/>A counseller once told me to stop worrying about certain people reading my blog and getting upset. People will protect themselves and not read it if that is what they need to do. Maybe some people will say goodbye for a little while until they are ready and then maybe most of us will surprise you with staying put. <BR/><BR/>I am equally able to gush over your new baby, sharing your excitement and joy just as much as I am able to commiserate with you and support you in your pain.<BR/><BR/>You have been through so much. I for one would love to hear about your joy as well. You deserve it... And you give me hope that I will get there too. :)Sophiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17663682329663202706noreply@blogger.com